Sex and the CT

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and ‘let’s talk about sex’

Is it irrational to fear telling a girl I’m a virgin? Choosing to share anything about your sexual history can leave anyone feeling vulnerable. If what you’re sharing is that you haven’t had a sexual history, it can feel even scarier. This can be further complicated if you’re a guy; stereotypically, men are supposed to […]

Ask Chris: Making your love life a piece of cake

My boyfriend has taken to calling me muffin and cupcake, but I hate it. How do I tell him? I intend to, like bread, rise to the occasion and give you some great advice, as I have seen a very similar situation play out recently. After all, it’s the yeast I can do.  Personally, I […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and great expectations

My boyfriend’s penis is only 2.5 inches long. I’m used to longer penises than this, but I love him so much I don’t want  him to know he’s so small. Is there any way I can fix this and make my sex life more pleasurable? I’m not sure whether the “2.5 inches long” refers to […]

Ask Chris: Lovers, partners, and pairs, oh my

Editor’s Note: Professor Estrada was not feeling well this week, so one of our staff decided to step in and share his own words of wisdom.   Dear Chris,  How do I insistently ask a girl out on a date?  – Nervous Michael First, ask the girl if she is interested in getting dinner with […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and common scents

How long does the average guy last for, how long does the average male take to “recharge”, and what can I do to improve these times? It seems so hard (pun not intended) to get accurate tips online.  The average duration of a man’s performance depends on the study and on the era in which […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and (men)struation

I want to be there for my girlfriend when she has her period every month, which I know is a tough time, but I don’t feel like I fully understand the biological process. Is there some way as a male that I can experience a period? It’s great that you’re so understanding and empathetic and […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and sexual disconnects

My last girlfriend broke up with me because I couldn’t get hard when having sex with her, and one night, I even screamed “Oh, Steve!” during sex (Steve is my roommate). Am I gay? There are many possible reasons why you couldn’t maintain an erection with your girlfriend that have nothing to do with your […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and orgasms

I don’t enjoy having sex at all. It is a tiring experience for me and I have never been able to achieve orgasm. However, I enjoy masturbating and it is more relaxing to me. I am not sure what to make of this. (I am a male). Based on the fact that you enjoy masturbating, […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and sex toys

Should men be open to their girlfriends wanting to integrate adult toys into their sex lives? Imitation may be the most sincere form of flattery, but invention is often hailed as the more sincere form of criticism. Men often feel hesitant about this topic because they worry that the sex toys are being introduced as […]

Ask Estrada: Hookups, relationships, and threesomes

Why won’t my boyfriend perform oral? How can I push him in the right direction?  Without talking to your boyfriend, I can only guess about his reasons for not visiting your downtown. It’s possible that he simply had a bad experience with a previous female partner who felt too self-conscious to enjoy it. He also […]