I’m a 21-year-old senior and my girlfriend wants to spice up our sex life by having another girl ? and a hot one I might add ? join us in a mnage trois. The only catch is that my girlfriend, who I’m thinking of marrying after graduating, wants to put on a strap-on dildo and do both of us. I’m not gay and have no experience with anything in my butt. Is this pleasurable or should I break up with my girlfriend? Are there any dangers to a rubber unit in my backside? Please help. ? Anxious Anus
If you are not completely comfortable with your girlfriend’s request, I do not suggest trying this. Sexual intimacy, however kinky, should be pleasurable for all participants.
If you anticipate enjoying the pain caused by the stretching of your anal cavity, I say go for it. If not, let your girlfriend fantasize about it herself. Don’t break up with her for communicating a hidden desire. Respect her for it. Just like she should respect you for not sharing her vision. I’m sure she will understand that you have certain limits.
Don’t scrap the mnage trois thing altogether if you are excited about it, however. Discuss alternative activities that do not involve your anus. Of course, the other girl has to agree to participate. Fulfilling a fantasy can be an awesome, passionate experience. Mutual satisfaction is the key element here. ? Joan
My boyfriend has recently developed cauliflower protrusions along his reproductive frenulum. Should I worry that he is not being faithful? ? Worry Wart
It sounds like these formations that look like little frozen vegetables are genital warts, which are fairly common. If this is the case, he needs to have them removed and should see someone at the University Health Service soon to receive treatment.
Genital warts, caused by the human papilloma virus, can be contracted by vaginal, genital and oral-anal contact. The average incubation period for the virus is about three months. So, it all depends on how long you have been in a relationship with this man to determine whether you should be suspicious of any extra-relation-
ship play.
? Joan Love and relationship questions can be sent to the love goddess herself, Joan Knihnicki, at love@campustimes.org.
