Have you ever gotten it on with your man and decided to take an unexpected turn into his hind-quarters? Was his reaction to immediately tense up and defensively shout, “No way”?
Well, both of you should consider exploring this more because, in case you didn’t know, the male G-spot is the prostate gland and is easily activated with the simple insertion of a finger.
While this might sound a little taboo, it’s definitely an area worth exploring if you’re looking to mix up your sex life and try something new.
Here are six tips to guide you through your anal adventure.
Don’t take him by surprise.
Remember, foreplay and sex should always be consensual, even if it’s with your significant other. Therefore, before you start experimenting, it’s important that you ask if your partner is OK. Having a conversation about his G-spot and your method of pleasing beforehand is a good way to ease any concerns and know what exactly he is comfortable with doing.
Keep your hygiene in check.
Whenever you engage in any type of sexual behavior, cleanliness is the key to protecting yourself against any harmful bacteria, STIs, STDs and the like. If you anticipate getting frisky, make sure that you and your partner have both showered recently, that your hands are thoroughly washed and that your nails are trimmed and rounded so you don’t end up hurting him or accumulating harmful bacteria, such as e-coli, underneath them.
If you or your partner haven’t showered and find it embarrassing to ask, consider starting off in the shower first. Not only are you both clean and ready to go, but it’s also a fun way to spice up foreplay.
Lather it up.
For the same reasons you wouldn’t want to have dry sex, do your man a favor and use a generous amount of lube on both the anal region and your finger.
If you feel like this could turn into an awkward moment, make the lubrication process a part of your foreplay and sensually massage the area. This will make the experience one which you can easily slide into.
Gently work your way in.
Just because you’ve generously lubricated the area does not mean that you can prod your finger inside of him.
Prepping the area for penetration is a process that requires patience and a series of gentle attempts. It will probably take multiple tries for the anus to become loose enough so that you can completely enter it. The most important part of this step is to keep your partner completely relaxed and comfortable. Remember, slow and steady wins the race.
Cue the fireworks.
Assuming that the area has been properly prepped and is now loose enough for complete entrance, it’s time to find that G-spot. The prostate gland is the size of a walnut and located between the bladder and the penis.
When your finger is inserted, gingerly search for the gland with the pad of your finger. This part requires you to pay close attention to how your partner reacts with every move you make. You should be able to tell that you’re at the right place by their body language.
Sit back and enjoy the ride.
Now that you’re familiar with the area, it’s up to you and your partner to decide what types of motions you feel are best. You can apply as little or as much pressure to the area depending on the intensity you’re trying to achieve. You can also rub the G-spot up and down or circularly to obtain different sensations. Communication is key here—listen to what he and his body is saying. Eventually, you’ll figure out what exactly does the trick, and you’ll have him orgasming like crazy.
With these new tricks up your sleeve, you’ll elevate your bedroom game and become even better than you were before.
Marquez is a member of the class of 2017.